LET’S TALK TO EACH OTHER

06/12/2013

Who doesn’t want someone to be there for them, in the bad or even the good times? Everyone needs someone who can talk and show affection to. Whatever obstacles there are among you and the others must be crushed away. And only you know the right way to achieve this.

Others’ don’t know what’s inside your head, so if you don’t show it, others can’t just smell it in the air. If we want to be closer to each other, we have to talk to each other. Talk about our feelings, our viewpoints, fears, ambitions, goals, desires, wants, needs, fantasies etc. Talk about everything and any thing with each other. 

Be there at the end of the day. You can always rely on the person that needs you the most, even if they don’t say it straight to you. Always listen to what the other has to say and if they don’t want to talk about it right away then don’t push them to. They will come to you when they need this. 

The most difficult part of the bonding process is to be honest with each other. As every most important thing, being honest is the most difficult part too. The glue of doing well with someone is to be honest and listen to them.

ImageIMPORTANT: We can be there for each other, only because we want to and NOT because we have to. That’s one of the most frustrating reasons for couples to be together. It’s not that it is annoying, it’s just that it’s not right and it’s fully dishonest. 

This self righteous attitude you have that you are more concerned about what you feel will not lead you to choose the right path and achieve things. It will only make you confused. So if you want to save yourself, thinking about yourself will not fix it for you. 

“Don’t freeze up the part of you that feels.”

My tips: Show your affection. Talk to each other. Be honest. Move on. 

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NEVER GIVE UP

04/12/2013

Dreaming big is the easy and the most exciting part of following your dreams. The hard part is working day in and day out to keep your dreams alive.  Many times I told myself i could never give up something, but as i am alive i know that anything is possible, and also i fully understand the quote we must “never say never.”

At some point in the various journeys we embark on in our lives, we get to a part where we feel like giving up. Sometimes we give up before we even start and other times we give up just before we are about to make the huge break-through that we have been putting so much effort in to achieve.

I strongly believe that you WILL and CAN do what you set to do. Everything you want to, if you believe in your dreams, can be true. That’s a phrase we all have listened to a thousand times but it’s also kinda true. Once, i somewhere read that “Better a Has-been than a Never-was. But better a Never-was than a Never-tried-to-be.” That quote has been kind of a motto for me, and i can say that it helped me through in my life. Without goals, without visions, people would wandering around their cities, searching for nothing, doing nothing, in a few words they would live a pointless life.

Everyone can do anything. If the king of your thought is that “ I’m not going to do what HE did, because he is the one” you’re right, you’re never going to reach him. BUT with a little faith, of course you are doing it, you’re reaching it, and be sure that you will overpass him also. You are the one that sets that for you, and no other. Slowly and steadily you will win the race, either you want it, or not. The point is that you will try.

If you already tried, and being knocked down more than once then that’s where you should stay stronger, and never imagine of giving up. Giving yourself permission have another go, try something different and learn from your mistakes. As i have mentioned on another post of mine FAILURE IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS. Take a look and try it cause that’s what i do.

Often when you feel like you want to give up and you are about to give up you are so close to making a huge break-thru. So DON’T do it. Anyway, being the rebel of yourself for yourself, you also are the achiever and not the looser..

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COMPETITION AT WORK

03/10/2013

It’s very crucial to be tolerant of your own progress and that of other people as comparing yourself to others might pull you down or even distract you from what you initially were supposed to do.

ImageI mean if you trying to accomplish a goal in your life, don’t expect the same results as your friend who did the same exact thing. People are not the same, don’t act the same and definitely don’t have the same impact. So, the level of advancement in whatever you’re working on, might be slower than your friend’s if not faster. It’s crucial to tolerate other people’s progress and not be motivated by it.

We, as individuals, we are different, have different capacities and priorities in life. If they achieved more than you by working not so hard as you did, that does not mean in any way that the other individual is better than you.

Achieving goals is not only based on your work-only-skills but also the interpersonal skills and how you talk around with your colleagues. Use positive words in your inner dialogues or when talking to others. Grin a bit more, as this helps a lot because once a negative thought enters your mind, you have to take care of it and endeavor to substitute it with a constructive one. The negative thought will try again to enter your brain and then you have to substitute it again with a favorable one.

It doesn’t matter what your circumstances are at the moment. Anticipate only positive results and situations and circumstances will alter accordingly.

“Concentrating on your own goals and accomplishments will help you work more accurately giving your work or whatever you’re doing more concentration producing better results.”

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DELAY IS NEVER DENIAL

02/20/2013

Having a positive attitude, may often lead to not so positive feelings. But having a way to wipe out all the feelings of self-pity, the negativity, that positive feelings may cause, are already far far away.

Well, just so you know, if you always act in a particular way for a long period that action begins to embed in your personality. So, please, avoid letdowns because it will turn out to become an automatic action that comes naturally after all.

I know you’ve tried a lot to get the new job you wanted. I know you deserve better, and I know you should’ve traveled more, but the reason you are not, it’s not your fault. It’s not because you didn’t try hard enough or because someone is better than you or even because you’re not worth it, because you DO worth it. And if the best for you has not happened yet, then be patient because it will come tomorrow.

ImageDelay is never denial. If you’re not getting what you want NOW, then you most probably are going to get it by the next day. Don’t worry if the next day is going to be next month or even next year. For me, FAILURE is equals to “Get up and try again.”

We have to learn that when things happen our way, in the end it will make us selfish and egoistical. We always have to think that there’s tomorrow and that you may always try again. The second chance is already been given to you.

Always be cautious in knowing the difference between “I didn’t try, to get it” and “I can’t get it.” Because if you did try, then you most probably are getting it, and if you can’t get it you most probably didn’t try it.

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DON’T WASTE TIME ON GUILT

02/03/2013

Earlier this week, while i was watching one of my favorite shows, i heard the phrase “Don’t waste time on guilt, holding onto toxic relationships is what keeps us from growing,” and something inside me just clicked. I already knew that my next post on the blog was definitely going to be about Guilt. 

The other day whilst i was talking on the phone with my friend, i don’t really remember what we were taking about, and it’s not really relevant anyway, but the point of me referring to this is because he told me that i don’t have to feel guilty about something. And you know what? I wasn’t feeling guilty at all. But the way he brought it up and stuck it in my head for over a week made me feel like he was implying i should feel guilty.

So, the main point is that i had to feel guilty about something i don’t even remember the subject of. 

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Guilt is not a feeling like anger or sadness. It’s not a natural emotion but it’s a cultural product. It prevents you from moving on, and it won’t help you reinstall yourself. Guilt can’t fix your past, or what you’ve done. So apparently nothing good comes on feeling guilty about things you’ve done. And exactly because guilt is a thought process we might as well not mixing it up with other feelings as many people do.

We often misunderstand our feelings. Is it guilt what we feel? Or is it sadness, or maybe anger? The true and actual causes of guilt is feeling bad about doing something bad. Although causes of sadness is feeling bad about someone else did something bad. Causes of anger has nothing to do with feeling bad and it’s being eliminated. So it’s definitely not anger what you’re feeling.

“It is difficult to improve your life without knowing whether you are sad or angry about some aspect of it,” says psychological scientist Emre Demiralp of the University of Michigan. And I’m totally familiar with it since I’m reading a hell out of psychology books the past years trying to objectify and understand my own feelings and actions.  

The main point of posting this article was to show you that wasting time, on wrong feelings might lead you to way different things than what you were targeting. The time goes by, the ability to identify our feelings helps us address the problem that led us to those emotions in the first place. 

So my advise is to “Be Specific.” When you know exactly what you want, and have already eliminated what you’re not, the chances of doing something that is completely out of your book, is almost impossible.

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THINKING BETTER, FEELING BETTER

01/19/2013

So, thoughts create feelings, feelings create thoughts or maybe both? People living around us are the main impact in what we’d feel or think. Generating feelings about thoughts you’re having seems natural but really that’s not how we work it out in the end.

That procedure our mind goes through this weird, at first, phase and wants to control the near future simply isn’t working. The achievement of happiness is never as simple a matter as we would like.

So my theory is that if we do create feelings for our thoughts then our thoughts become feelings instantly, but not the opposite.

Let me explain below:

If you’re thinking that the near future has nothing to provide and offer to you therefore you start feeling bad about how you’re going to survive all this. But the opposite, if you’re feeling bad that you’re not going to survive the near future, your thoughts have to be optimistic in order to avoid all this harmful but on the other hand sudden thoughts.

Although humans are the only animals who can look into the future, we often make mistakes in terms of what we think will lead to finally be true.

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We shouldn’t let our thoughts take over.  This kind of thinking (positive thinking) will only make you want to start the big step. Will only give you a hard push, will boost you to make the first and most important step. Positive thinking is all about making you want to be able to do things and will not help you do them. So DO NOT count only on what’s on your head but have a mental balance between what’s on your mind and what’s the reality around you. Positive thoughts will make you feel better but if you do, well then you’re on your own.

Having balance between the environment and the people are in the same situation as you, is the best way to proceed in this difficult but yet passable path of your excellent life journey.

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STRENGTHEN YOUR CONFIDENCE

01/17/2013

Confidence is the feeling that may easily be misidentified for the feeling of thinking you are better than other people or that you do not care about what other people think, which I find incorrect. Confidence isn’t about other people, it’s about you and how you reflect yourself and recognizing your capability and capacity.

 Yesterday, I read something, somewhere that made me realize that confidence is literally something that if you own, you’re proceeding fast. So now on I’ll think about that. It was like “If it can be done by other people, you as an individual can also do it. It only requires for you to take one single(sometimes big) step to start a journey and it only gets easier as you move along.”

 ImageWe all have experienced, that after doing something we were dreaded for the first time, we realize that it wasn’t as frightening as you thought. Well, moral support is really important part of strengthening your confidence. 

 Some of us need to see things in different point of views, so don’t be afraid opening up to people you are comfortable with, and hearing their opinion might do something that give you that extra nudge into proceeding correctly.

Strengthening your confidence is required to live a stronger and most respectful life.

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Hellen Keller

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2012/2013 RESOLUTIONS REVEALED

01/01/2013

 Happy New Year to everyone. 2012 in review, was actually at all bad for me. Many of my 2012′s resolutions did came true.

     Usually I’m one of them who likes to postpone things, but lately i came to understand the importance of doing what i have to do, in order to live an organized life.
   So my 2012 resolutions were unexpectedly completed in a way that most of them were completed by the second half of the year.
Some of them were:
     **To travel to NYC.
          Okay, i did a little more than travel, but this task completed and I’m so very happy for this trip, this job, this experience.
     **To learn a new language.
          Yes, i started to learn Japanese. Well at first i tried to complete my French classes, but unfortunately for another one time i failed. French just don’t want to be spoken by me. No further explanation to this.
     **To see the sunset and the sunrise at the same day.
          Twas an easy but truly beautiful resolution, and someday you have to make it happen to you too. Sitting and watching the day happens is ridiculously amazing and exciting at the same time. Watching the day pass and you’ll see how complete you are going to feel.
  
  **To see a Broadway play.
          I am a total musical freak, so i couldn’t go to NYC without seeing at least 2 of my favorite plays. So i watched 2 magical plays. Admired so much the talent of the performers, and they’re voices are still in my head.

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NOW let’s take a look at my wish-to-happen resolutions of 2013.
     **To send a message in a bottle.
          I don’t really know why i find this awesome, but i really want to write a message and stick it in a bottle and throw it in the sea. This’ll be the first resolution its going to come true in 2013. Ive always wanted to do that and I’m going to.
     **To milk a cow.
          Why are you laughing? Yeah i find that super amazing, and doing it will be lots of fun. Well, i guess it’s turning out fun rather than a tragedy. Whatever’s the final result Im definitely doing it.
     **To see the northern lights LIVE.
         If you guys have seen anything more magical than the northern lights, please inform me. If you haven’t then you really need to check out National Geographic’s videos about the northern lights, and you WILL definitely want to see them too.
     **To kiss underwater.
          No further explanations needed. I guess.
     **To win an E-bay auction.
         Finally i need to win an e-bay auction. I’ve participated many times, but definitely NOT enough. I hit it once, and then i totally forget about it. So I HAVE TO win.
     **To ride an elephant.
     **To swim with dolphins.
     AND MANY MANY MORE….
 
I Hope 2013 will be the year where most of our wishes will do come true. Wish you health, wealth and happiness. 
 
Best
D.

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RECIPE FOR HAPPINESS by sKyL

12/20/2012

The good weird thing with this kind of recipe is the fact that YOU have all the ingredients needed to “cook” if not the best, the most important meal of your entire life! You dont have to go out of your house to buy anything,you dont need any chef’s experience for this recipe!

 Ok let me explain what I mean…
What i have noticed is that nowdays people seek others approval and
try to meet THEIR expectations at all costs.This is the point that the “food” is burnt!!
The secret of “cooking” happiness is to feel free and do things that will fulfill
YOUR needs and YOUR desires. You don’t have to obey subsonsciously to anyones wills or expectations. Of course everyone has a boss, or a parent or a friend a girlfriend or whoever that needs to offer them hard work, respect, love, money etc, Imagebut this doesn’t mean that your needs are dropped behind.

 In order to become an efficient working man, a good son, a dedicated lover or whatever you want to be, you have to feel comfortable, believe in yourself and this will be reflected outside. Listen to yourself, be patient, be thoughtful, spend some time alone to consider the things that are important to YOUR life!

 Stop puzzling your brain with what others expect from you and achieve your own personal goals. FEEL FREE.BE HAPPY.

By Konstantinos Skylogiannis

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DO THE MATH

12/15/2012

A couple of days ago I read an article in Wall Street’s Journal that made me realize one-two things, that people usually misunderstand. Being positive doesn’t mean you have to be negative to negativity.

We are positive to negativity. 

We don’t support denial of the negativity. We need the negative people in order to have a balanced life.

We, optimists, don’t think black or white, but we live in the Grey Zone.

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What is a Grey Zone. 

Grey zone is where people are all equal, where the grass is greener not only in the opposite side, but also in our side. Where the negativity flow can’t touch or affect us, and if it does then we just see it as an advantage. Where we don’t really care what others say about us, where we can say freely our opinion, where we absorb the rights and dissipate the wrongs.

Despite the fact that we don’t really want negativity in our lives, we might as well need it. I mean, we can’t actually find a life full of positive people. Negativity is around us whether we want it or not.

So I would suggest leave the strict opinions, and leave room for negative feedback. It is important that we have awareness of what is it that we want so we can have a balanced life.

As math scientists have proven, multiplying negatives makes a positive, so DO the math ;)

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