Who doesn’t want someone to be there for them, in the bad or even the good times? Everyone needs someone who can talk and show affection to. Whatever obstacles there are among you and the others must be crushed away. And only you know the right way to achieve this.
Others’ don’t know what’s inside your head, so if you don’t show it, others can’t just smell it in the air. If we want to be closer to each other, we have to talk to each other. Talk about our feelings, our viewpoints, fears, ambitions, goals, desires, wants, needs, fantasies etc. Talk about everything and any thing with each other.
Be there at the end of the day. You can always rely on the person that needs you the most, even if they don’t say it straight to you. Always listen to what the other has to say and if they don’t want to talk about it right away then don’t push them to. They will come to you when they need this.
The most difficult part of the bonding process is to be honest with each other. As every most important thing, being honest is the most difficult part too. The glue of doing well with someone is to be honest and listen to them.
IMPORTANT: We can be there for each other, only because we want to and NOT because we have to. That’s one of the most frustrating reasons for couples to be together. It’s not that it is annoying, it’s just that it’s not right and it’s fully dishonest.
This self righteous attitude you have that you are more concerned about what you feel will not lead you to choose the right path and achieve things. It will only make you confused. So if you want to save yourself, thinking about yourself will not fix it for you.
“Don’t freeze up the part of you that feels.”
My tips: Show your affection. Talk to each other. Be honest. Move on.